How Come Something Is Missing In My Life? Could “This” Be The Ultimate Reason For My Feelings of Emptiness?

Back in 2006 when I was around 20 years old I felt inspired to start my own little “part-time” car-cleaning business beside my full-time studies. A few months later and I was doing full time hours while using my college hours to have a rest. Bought a nice car for my age and a catamaran sailing boat which I always enjoyed. However there were moments when I really felt really empty and lonely. Was there anything else that could be missing from my life? I thought everything went so well…

Feelings of emptiness and having the thoughts of; Something is missing in my life is a very common thing. The reason why that might be is what you will find out in the next video/blog post. Enjoy!

“Whatever you do right now, does it make you fully present, joyful and connected? Does it make you forget the time? Or you do it because of a possible outcome, a expectation that maybe never give you what you thought it will be”?

So how do you know if something is missing? Let me give you a couple of examples. Let’s say in your daily life; do you feel fully present, connected and joyful? Are you free from any expectations, have you forgot about the time or is there a condition? Like if I do this then I will get that. That what you are aiming for has yet to come but it’s not here. So your present moment therefore feels empty, there is a lack! Do you wish you could be somewhere else, do something else or be with someone else?

So what is really missing in our lives?

The way we live our lives we think it’s the most common thing to do, it’s logical and rational. Yet we are starving from having a more meaningful, connected and fulfilled life. However we forget that we are not just human beings having a spiritual experience we are Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience.

I am not saying we shouldn’t be logical and rational but if we are trying so hard to make sense of our “reality” but we are missing something then something ain’t in align or in balance, right? It also seems that we are trying even harder to push it away, suppress and neglect it until we have to face a harsh wake up call. This wake up call can come in any form like sudden unemployment, bankruptcy, loss of a loved one in any form, physical, mental or emotional health issues like anxiety, burn-out and/or depression. Facing these symptoms can also be a form of moving towards a “Spiritual Awakening.”

All of this can cause a lot of overthinking and in-activity. It makes you feel worried and anxious about your future. You live either in fear because of what happened once in your past and that it could happen again. Or you are worried about your future because of the things that could go wrong. Is this correct so far? (At least this is how it has been for me for a very long time).

So there you are; feeling a bit hopeless, disconnected, dis-empowered, lonely and empty. What are we missing in our life?

When was for me the moment when I start to realize that something was missing in my life?

I kinda started with this but while I was coming back from my lovely days on the lakes sailing the waves I felt into some sort of empty hole. I felt lonely. I was 22 years old. Finally doing well with my studies. Had a nice part time business paying me anywhere between the 2000 to 4000 Euros a month but still felt empty and lonely. Still not fulfilled. How come? Was it because I was still single? Was it because I couldn’t connect with women because of my trust issues? Or was it something else?

Anyway this starvation for connection had led me all the way to Peru. Some people say that Peru is the center of feminine energy. A center of a global vortex. A Cue Line just as we have Chakras and Meridians so has the Earth her energetic lines. I grew up only with my farther because of their divorce and I blamed my mother for it. My farther projected his ideas on me that women can’t be trusted. Therefore I also started to suppress a part inside of my own being.

While I was in Peru I visited their global attraction of Machu Picchu. It seems that in Machu Picchu is the global vortex of feminine energy. I felt nothing when I was there because I was so unbelievable blocked. Heavy smoker, drinker and workaholic. When I came back to The Netherlands I started to have a small awakening. I suddenly started to create a lot of resistance against my society, my studies and internships in international shipping companies, the government and so on. Eventually I ended up in a very deep depression after I graduated and found a corporate job. My anger helped me to force myself out of it and start another business. It took some time before I started to make money online. But when I was making money online and had the financial freedom to do whatever I wanna to do I still felt empty, lonely, depressed and burned out because of my forced misaligned actions.

What else could there be that was missing from my life?

Something is missing in our lives because of our upbringing first of all. A lot of things we learn as children are “left-brain” activities such as languages, mathematics etc. All these things are of course very important but our consciousness goes much further. Unfortunately we are less trained in dealing with our own feelings and emotions and that from others. There is a common believe or myth that feeling your own feelings is a form of weakness and should be neglected at all times. This was maybe helpful during times of war but we don’t really live in these times anymore. We live in a time where most of our basic needs are met. Now it become a MUST for human evolution and overall happiness to work on our Self Actualization just as in the Hierarchy of Maslow.

If logical thinking was masculine and feeling your own feelings feminine then is it the feminine energy that we are missing? Can we balance doing things that make senses and that feels right?

Are we living “Fake Lives” or lives full with expectations?

You could say that we are started to live more in a society that becomes pretty narcissistic. The misconception that Self Love is all about picturing a perfect life full with selfies and such. This can create a lot of jealously and envy in the view of others. Because we see others having a “perfect” life and we create the feeling that something is missing your life.

Would you like to feel more grounded, connected, whole and fulfilled again?

I could come with a very complicated strategy and a list of difficult things to do. But sometimes all it takes is waking up before sunrise, get out in nature and walk for at least 10 miles. Practice some Self Reflection and raise above your own noise. Raise above your negative self talk, doubts, worries and fears. Have a moment where you can feel fully present in the Here & Now and you will notice that you don’t really need a whole lot of things. However…

Self Reflection is one things; another very important thing is to feel more connected, have a purpose or calling, feel grounded, whole and fulfilled and to be creative, productive and of service to others. This might take some soul searching and clearing limited lack believes. Reframe your Self Image and how you see yourself in relation to others.

Well my friend for this you are at the right address because that has been my biggest struggle in life so far. To uncovered my True Authentic Self so I could Create a Place To Re-Member.