What To Do When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Anywhere… (My Nr 1 Insight To Find Your “Way Back Home.”)

The feeling of belonging is one of our basic human needs. Yet so many people (especially the highly sensitive and empathic ones) struggle with this feeling of not belonging anywhere.

You could say that we feel alienated from the society we live in that only seems to care about commercial gain. Or we don’t feel we belong to a specific country (not even our own). While others don’t feel they belong to their current social circle or even the relationships they have.

In the next video, I would like to share some of my personal experiences regarding the feeling of not belonging anywhere. Also, I share an insight that can actually stimulate the feeling of “belonging” even when you are socially isolated or in a country that doesn’t “feel like home.”

For a while now I struggle a bit with feelings of loneliness and feeling lost. Even when I try to stay creative and productive it also can feel a bit pointless. That the “social engagement” I receive is “not real” because I don’t really know these people or have a personal relationship with them. Therefore as content creators, the journey can feel really lonely sometimes.

Also, I live in a very busy metropole and everybody is just busy to survive and make money here. I found it way too hard to socialize with people here, build friendships and relationships.

Especially since the last few months when we had to socially isolate ourselves I really got to a point of “why even bother.” For who am I creating this content anyway? For myself? Then why just don’t find another distraction that delivers a more instant artificial stimulation of dopamine such as video games.

This inner conflict has been going on for a while now. So again I really wanna reflect on this so I can share my personal development journey of integrating a “new kind of belief.”

What To Do When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong Anywhere…

Because of these feelings that I lack “a base” where I feel I belong I also tend to seek something externally. Like other jobs or business opportunities. Many of them promise of course “high rewards.” But then I ask myself if that is really what I want? Do I want to sacrifice my free time and wellbeing to slave myself in a position that only makes me feel miserable?

Of course, we are conditioned “to work hard”, “hustle” and have success in life. Gain material and financial freedom. And have an amazing social status. Also, we think we must show the world epic video reels of our best moments. So others can think “we have it all figured out” and they don’t so they can buy something from us.

Many of us now actually start to resist that whole idea, yet we are still in it. It’s all around us and we constantly receive the stimulations that that’s the way forward.

Because of all these external stimulations and distractions, we tend to lose touch with our own inner flow of inspiration, guidance, and creativity. Or we try to work on that but we tend to hold on to a self-sabotaging belief that we are not “good enough” therefore nobody will ever notice our work and get recognized & rewarded financially.

So What Do You Do Then In Order To Create That Feeling of Belonging?

In the video, I really spoke about the importance of creating your own flow. That state of being that makes you feel very present. Self-expression is a must in order to experience more self-respect. You can be surrounded by hordes of people but when you are unable to really show yourself you can still feel like you don’t belong.

So besides having a creative form of self-expression it’s also very important to have a social community where you can share and discuss your ideas. Or perhaps you want to become part, create or lead a social tribe with a common cause or interest. Working together on something that is beyond your own needs. This will make you feel more connected and engaged to life.